But!

Imagine you put your best effort into something and at the time you present it, its appreciated and a conjunction called “but” is added on, in the sentence to complete it. It may be a task, a job done at home or office, or maybe something you cooked for your family. I ask you a simple question. Will you remember anything said before the “but”? How much time will you spend thinking about all that was said after that conjunction? How did it feel? How would it feel if there had been no conjunction instead?

Have you ever thought about what compliments do to you? How they raise up your confidence and self esteem? They motivate you and push you to explore. They encourage you.

It is the same with children.

In case while you appreciate everything your child has done BUT feel they can do better and use the conjunction, think again. There is another time for your “but”. It is extremely important to stick with the praise and keep the advice for another time.

Praise and compliment your child for the slightest efforts they make. Your attention means the world to them. It is one of the best gifts you can give your child and it costs nothing at all! What if you were told that your reprimand breaks them internally and they may never come and share the pain with you, will you think again how you speak to your child and how you give attention to their details?

You might be the perfect parent and you know what your child needs best BUT you are not always correct.

It is sad seeing the number of children with the similar concerns, pain and complete lack of confidence and self esteem. And while they love their parents, they wish so much that certain things were done differently by them. I guess we all have our point of view. We know what’s best for our child, no doubt. Seeing the number of disturbed children, I think its time that as parents, we really stop and listen to our children.

Help the family by making it a family. Not a battleground.

While whatever said, may seem harsh and too black and white, there are millions of shades in between we are missing. Those are the shades they keep hidden from everyone. They keep it locked inside. Waiting for the pain to somehow magically go away. BUT the pain continues and grows till its done more harm than can be repaired.

Wake up today. Listen. Love and Nurture!